by Ari Sytner (Author)
You're in a committed relationship with someone you love. So, why don't feel as connected as you once did? It's not that you've stopped caring. It's that you're not having the conversations that strengthen your relationship at its foundation and build deeper connection.
Dr. Ari Sytner, a professor and Certified Gottman Couples Therapist has spent years watching this happen. His mission is simple: Keep couples out of therapy by empowering them the tools that therapists use, before things break down.
Couples Conversations(TM) is the perfect tool to help couples who are still good, but want to be great!
"I absolutely love this book. It is an incredibly useful handbook for couples to build the essential aspects of their relationship together."
- Dr. John Gottman, World's Leading Relationship Expert
Inside this couples communication workbook, you'll find 300 carefully crafted questions and conversation starters - organized by theme, grounded in clinical research, and designed to take you somewhere real. Not surface-level small talk. The kind of emotional intimacy that builds a relationship that lasts.
Use it during date nights, weekly check-ins, or any moment you want to be more intentional about your relationship. The questions includes follow-up prompts to keep the conversation going, giving you hundreds of additional conversations.
Below are sample questions from each chapter - carefully crafted to help strengthen the foundation of your bond:
From Chapter 1 - Building Our Story:
"What mistakes from our early days actually helped shape who we've become? How did those stumbles secretly strengthen us?"
From Chapter 2 - Getting to Know Each Other Deeply:
"Tell me about your mother. What early memory of her stands out? How would you describe her presence in your childhood?"
From Chapter 3 - Strengthening Our Relationship:
"What's one of your happiest memories of us together? What elements of that experience could we intentionally recreate more often?"
Couples who use this book don't just talk more. They feel more known, more understood, and more connected.
WHAT'S INSIDE:
- 300 research-grounded conversation starters organized by relationship theme
- Chapter introductions with reflection goals and communication strategies
- Practical takeaway lessons, follow-up questions, and journal prompts at the end of each chapter
- Guidance on approaching emotionally sensitive topics with empathy
- Tools for navigating difficult moments and staying connected
- Common pitfalls to avoid when conversations get challenging
TOPICS INCLUDE:
- Childhood experiences and how they shape who you are today
- Your relationship story - how you met, grew, and evolved together
- Core values, emotional needs, and personal belief systems
- Trust, communication, and building a secure foundation
- Navigating differences and bridging emotional gaps
IDEAL FOR:
- Married couples wanting to reconnect and strengthen their bond
- Dating or engaged couples building a strong foundation together
- Couples in premarital counseling or post-conflict reconnection
- Therapists, coaches, and clergy supporting couples in their care
"I was truly amazed by this book. Couples Conversations is the perfect handbook to help partners support each other and discover what each of them needs in their relationship."
- Dr. Pepper Schwartz, Sociologist, Relationship Expert, and TV host of Married at First Sight
Your relationship deserves to be the best it can. Couples Conversations(TM) Volume 1 gives you 300 natural and connecting conversations that will deepen every facet of your relationship's foundation.
Number of Pages: 158
Dimensions: 0.37 x 9 x 6 IN
Publication Date: January 07, 2026